Some of these episodes are absolutely phenomenal. This isn’t one of them. You cannot believe some of these guests are allowed to vote, let alone operate a motor vehicle or become parents.

I’ve listened to enough of this show to conclude…on the whole it is rather irresponsible. It’s not really so much a show about narcissists as it is about (excluding those born into narcissistic family dynamics- those are the good stories), codependents/love addicts relaying the story of their addiction. And in any other framing of addiction, there is a level of “your addiction is not your fault, but it is your responsibility”. Instead, with his line of commentary, the host absolves the guest of any and all culpability in their situation, in a way you would never see if the addiction was a substance instead of a person. It’s particularly egregious when these addicts- and it’s mostly women addicted to men- bring their own children into these situations, and keep them there, and even bring MORE children into it (I think the record was a woman who birthed 4, when she was addicted prior to even being married). It is wild to see one grown woman after another demonstrate the mental functioning of a teenager, and the last thing they need to be doing is chasing penis (*especially* when there are children in their charge…for a show that also features the children of narcissists- the only tolerable episodes- and the harm done there, the host should know!). The host is running a business and as such, I can understand that on air he can’t hold victims accountable who are entirely wrapped up in their victimhood, and aren’t willing to accept their part in it and the harm their addiction caused their children. If he did, the guests would leave the call. But it’s encouraging learned helplessness on the part of codependents. When really, if you’re not ready for adult responsibility, you’re not ready for adult fun, especially if you’re in charge of minors. We KNOW narcissists are awful! So is heroin! Are we going to focus on the toxic, immovable, predatory drug dealer, or are we going to frame the story about the addiction that the addict CAN change, and who they harmed due to their addiction? Like literally all other stories about addiction? Ideally he would not feature guests who aren’t ready to frame the story around their addiction (as opposed to getting worked up about how “he did this! and he did that!”). But if there aren’t enough guests to go around, maybe he just should not do the commentary at all. The upside is, if you’re binge listening, later on the guest audio quality does improve.

The giggling

This is a great podcast for people who are dating as to which red flags to look out for. But the August 22 episode is so embarrassing for this girl named July. She didn’t want to appear racist because she focused on “white privilege” and was dating a black guy who verbally abused her, beat her, amongst other things. What an unbelievable moron July is. She should rethink her whole life and ideologies.

This show here really resonate with me. Kaam survived social alienation with a J.W and realize his self-worth was more important than making others happy.

Thank you Brandon for this gift and making an intentional place for survivor stories that does nothing short of facilitate an intervention towards self growth, discovery, and liberation for the next chapter of your life.

This podcast should be made into a series for Netflix! Thanks to Brandon, victims of narcissistic abuse can FINALLY make sense of the madness and don’t feel so alone in the world. This podcast is a true lifesaver and game changer!

Excellent host, and I love how he says “the floor is now yours” and lets his guests talk instead of so many hosts that take over the show. Sometimes the guests don’t know how to self edit and it becomes rambling, but he helps bring it back.

Coming from an 11+ year (beyond) chaotic relationship, I would have never understood what was happening until I found this podcast. Recently, the perfectionism and confusion episodes were so eye opening and I have listened to them multiple times. I am finally able to understand and apply the lessons appropriately (where I most definitely would not have a year ago when I separated) I appreciate your honesty, and willingness to be vulnerable to a crowd of unknown people. You are seen and reaching people that couldn’t put things into words. Hoping to share my story one of these days, until then.. I’ll keep taking notes with the help of your podcast.

Interesting take!

Your perfectionism episode hits home. You are SO deeply appreciated for being you, thank you so much.

Ty

Weeeelcoooome to naaaaarcecissstrr aaaaapaaaaaaaacoooooolyyyyypsssss noooooowwwwww…….

I’ve been playing these podcasts to continue going in my separation. I feel so bad for putting limits but listening to the stories have made me understand that I am not crazy and what I felt and delt with was real!

Please share this resource with Maya, and any other listeners who are going through a divorce with a narcissist, especially if they have children. This has helped me so much, along with your show and other resources. Thank you for all that you do! divorceuniversityonline.com with Tammy Ferreira

My new favorite podcast, listening to these stories makes me feel like I am not alone. Thank you.

The episodes are great, but they’re very hard to hear. The mics are very staticky and tinny and it has to be listened to much louder than most. But that’s my only feedback! Very educational especially the Julie Hall ones.

It’s good to see so many people sharing their stories and opening up in order for others to feel inspired to heal.

Hearing from men who experience narc abuse is so valuable and hopefully stories like this one inspire other men to share. As a woman, I find the male perspective extra fascinating and enlightening. Thank you for opening up and letting the light in.

Wow…just spent the last 4 hours asking myself if I am the abuser because of the way I have reacted to my abuser. Wow. I’m really trying to leave and he has now convinced my family I’m crazy and have all this anger, where when we first met, I was too calm for him. I’ve questioned my sanity, my worth, and have so much guilt. Everything I thought I was has been turned upside down. I’m scared and mad at myself for getting into an abusive relationship AGAIN. Thank you for this podcast. I just found it by searching “domestic violence” on my podcast service and I’m so happy I found it. The relief I felt when I heard I was not alone in being blamed as the abuser by my abuser is more than I could ever describe. I hope I have the same confidence I feel now when I need to tell them to leave and not come back. Thank you!

This is a must listen to for anyone involved with or knows someone who is in an abusive relationship! So relatable and helpful! Thank you for doing this show I’m so glad I found it! These are such taboo topic’s sadly. You are blazing the trails for others to be able to address such scary isolating topics. Narcissistic apocalypse brings these real life experiences to the forefront of the podcast world!

Madison’s story sounds just like my story. I needed this story this week. Thanks for doing this and making me not feel as alone 💕

The true stories of narcissistic abuse are well worth the air time but this podcast needs an editor. I don’t need to hear every single grating detail of the band mates or what they were wearing. Thats the trauma talking, but it dilutes the message.

The interviews are interesting but the host chimes in way too much and likes to drag on the way he talks. He talks so slowly and take over a lot and it’s disruptive to the interviews. Talk less. Focus the conversation on what the interviewee has to say. I hope the host can see these reviews.

This podcast is interesting but the welcome intro is extremely grating. He hits a pitch that is anything but welcoming. Also speaks so slowly at points, it’s maddening. I want to love the show but can’t!

The stories are very relevant and well done. I just wish the moderator didn’t sound like such a game show host at the beginning of the show. It really does come off as a bit degrading. He does do better during the latter parts of the interview, but please change the introduction. The survivors testimonies are strong and powerful.

Must-listen; if, for no other reason: to hear how the host pronounces the word “against”.

I’ve been listening to you for a few yrs now. I don’t know how I would have survived my last break up without your podcast. You can only understand what an abusive relationship does to a person if you have in fact been through it. I was never so addicted to a person as I was him. The pain was physical. And mental. I had a nervous breakdown and much more. But story by story, one by one You and your guest have pulled me through it. And of course my Heavenly Father. I still have moments and PTS but I know I’ll be okay now. My prayers to all your guests. And all my best to you Brandon. Thank you, Sonya

Love this podcast it’s so real and so truthful keep up the good work this podcast is so spot on

This full guy doesn't provide the people spewing their pain out for views with any support. He just listens and asks probing question. What is the point of this?! Is he licensed to even do this? This is pain porn.

I listened to this podcast today and listened to some of your other podcasts. My heart goes out to spouses and their children who have, to no fault of their own suffered from the Abuse and Trauma inflicted upon them by this dark, twisted, weak and evil type of “person”. They are like a nuclear plant spilling. They not only destroy their family but destroy the lives of all of those that love and support the victim and victims. It is simply sick that a person would block a mother from going to her crying child because they insisted on having their needs met first. She had to have sex with this despicable creep before she could get to her crying child. We need to continue calling out the Narcissist and the damage they do to their own children and or any other people that they prey on. And the life long scars their victims are left to carry. I commend and applaud your guest in this podcast, who demonstrates the courage and dignity to share her story. And shining light on the dark, lurking sicko narcissist she was married to. Call it out so someone else can benefit from hearing your story. Maybe others will learn to spot these creeps (male or female) and run from them sooner than later. I happen to be a male. So men and women are in harms way when they get involved with a narcissist.

Very helpful and healing stories shared here, on such an important topic of narcissism. Content is top notch. My only complaint is that the host Brandon is too chatty. He needs to step back and let the guests finish their sentences. I hear more of Brandon than seems necessary; this should be guests’ time to speak, in their own way, without the host cutting in on them.

Once, I was eating a bag of chips, and I reached in, and pulled out a pretzel. It was honestly, the worst thing that ever happened to me. Five stars!

Thank you for creating this show.

I really don’t think I have the energy to go too far back at this time. It makes me so sad and angry to look back on our long marriage and identify every micro-aggression my husband used to rip me and my two kids away from my family & my support in Texas. This was 4 years into our marriage and my second child was only 6 months old. We never spoke about moving away. Ever. I resisted moving anywhere for so long until he came home and announced that he had been offered a good job, a General Manager, in Chicago!! I hindsight, I feel so naive & stupid!! We moved to Chicago and I decided to make the best of our life and marriage and accept that I would take care of the kids and let him do what he needed to in his career. We always had joint accounts but we had little in them because the house we sold in Texas to a buyer NEVER made a mortgage payment!! The bank for closed in our house!! From Chicago, we moved to Toronto, & 4 years later and 2 more kids, we went to Kansas City, MO for 5 years. I can’t continue now but fast forward 21 years and he symphoned all our retirement and our house, the childrens life insurance policies from us all for his business. I have forged signatures and all of the fraud he committed up until the time I confronted him in 2016! Not feeling that he owed me anything, he leaves me and divorces me! In the meantime, I was left alone as a basket case unable to function & he took control of the narrative with my grown children and his family!! That was seven years ago and I am alone in a crummy apartment and out of a job again because I never was able to go to school for a degree. I am almost 60 years old & though I have healed significantly over the last few years, I find myself questioning what is the point of living when I don’t know if I’ll be homeless at anytime. I have a deep faith and I wouldn’t be here without God’s grace but I am so tied & lonely. Thank you, Erica, for writing your book!! God Bless you and your family!! I wish I could have had this information when I realized the monster I married!!

I appreciate all of you sharing your stories. Thanks Brandon for this show. This is an important podcast and if I had known all this years before I met my abuser I would have known to get away much quicker than I did.

This podcast taught me too much to describe in this review, but the bottom line is that it made me see two Life-changing facts: 1. I’m not crazy or alone, and 2., that I needed to seek professional help. Thank you SO much, Brandon. Thank you.

This podcast has helped me immensely. Hearing people's stories has validated everything i've gone through. A true life saver and I can't thank every guest enough.

This podcast is a gamechanger. You will find yourself not doubting if you made the right decision in your own tale. For survivors sharing theirs here will resonate in a way like none other. This podcast has taught me so so so much in such a little time. I keep it playing and I don’t feel so alone or isolated. It’s real. It’s raw. Unfiltered. Yet professional and personal. Educational and equipping. Bravo, Brandon! Thanks for doing work that matters. Life-changing. This community is that…it’s hardly “just” a podcast. It’s a lifeline. I’m so grateful.

My friend recommended that I listen to this show and it's changed my life. A lot of tears but good ones. I'm grieving, but i'm also healing. One day I hope to be a guest myself. The best.

I think I've listened to every episode twice. I go back to it every time I need to know that I wasn't crazy. These things happened to me too.

I keep coming back to this podcast because to some degree it makes me feel less alone in my abuse. And I appreciate it when it does that. However this is not entirely due to the host. This guy seems to project gender, age, and all sorts of other rules onto NPD abuse. Nowhere does it say he has any professional education on narc abuse. Sometimes I wonder how much experience he actually has with narc abuse. Was it only from a relationship? Was it only covert? There are some maybe not many people out here that suffered multifaceted abuse from a primary narc nest. This podcast may gaslight me but I have enough people in my life who validate the emotionally incestuous pathologically lying “if I can’t have you then no one can” abuse from my parents AND one of my younger siblings (who also came out as lesbian in adulthood after using me and accusing me of being a lesbian - her shield). It’s not like movies such as atonement don’t exist but cultural gaslighting does exist, and it exists on this podcast.

I am so grateful this podcast exists. It was a very important reminder of how bad things can get when I was in an addictive cycle with a toxic relationship. It helped ground me when I felt that confusing disorientation of manipulation, and it helped me get out and stay out even when I felt weak. Thanks for all that you do Chad!

I'm so thankful for this show, the courage of the survivors that share, for Chad's hardwork and dedication and passion to keep this platform available! I have learned so much, ways to identify and understand what I have been through with my mother and how that has led me into abusive relationships. I just cant express how much I have learned and grown, thank you!

Why does it always sound like the host is distracted with reading an unrelated text?

The host speaks at such a slow pace you’ll go insane unless you speed up the podcast.

Been listening to this show and participating in the group for a couple years now. It’s a great community, but the show itself is just so solid. I love the interviewer’s thoughtful questions and the variety in stories. Very healing. Not blown up and pathologizing of abusers or victims, just feels real.

I have listened to several podcasts about narcissism, as I try to learn about it and while I have learned a lot from several of them out there- this one is the best, in my opinion. I appreciate the stories that the guests share, as I always learn something, despite how sad it is to hear the terrible things people go through when dealing with a narcissist. The show is really valuable and I appreciate the time and energy that is put into it.

I’m super obsessed with this podcast! Brandon your an excellent interviewer. Listening to this podcast has helped me heal from my narc husband more than you’ll ever know. Thank you for doing what you do! Please don’t ever stop podcasting!

I’ve been struggling to understand why I’ve always felt so upset and traumatized by the narc in my life. When I try to tell people about the situation, it doesn’t make much sense. I feel like I’ve found my people! As I listen to this podcast, I feel myself nodding and agreeing, or swearing right out loud! I cringe sometimes as I can sense what’s going to happen next. I really love this show and have been binge listening to it. This show reminds me not to get sucked in again by the “good times”.